Laurie’s Story

In every family there is “the sporty one”, “the funny one”, “the pretty one” and my has all of these but I am not one of them, in my family I was always known as “the sick one”. Born with a hole in my heart I developed complications as a young adult and as a result spent a significant amount of my life in hospitals, that was until I received a life saving heart-double lung transplant at the age of 24 in July 2002. Since then I haven’t looked back, I went back to uni, met and married the love of my life and work for a living.

This is Laurie with her husband

This is Laurie with her husband

There is however, one thing that is missing from our lives that my husband and I so dearly would love and that is a child. Although it may be physically possible for me to carry a child, i.e. I still have all the “bits”, the risks to my health and the health of the baby are extremely high, e.g. kidney failure, rejection of my organs, miscarriage, even death. So my husband and I have made the very hard decision that for me to carry a child is just too risky.

Now I am an extremely healthy woman, I have been for over ten years and plan on being for many, many more. And I believe that my husband and I deserve the right to have a family as much as any other couple. I am not a wealthy socialite who doesn’t want to destroy her figure or someone who is too busy to carry her own child. I was heartbroken when I was told by the doctors how risky it was for me to carry my own child as I wanted nothing more than to do just this.

So for my husband and I surrogacy is our only option. However Medicare and its outdated views on funding towards surrogacy is holding us back because we don’t have thousands and thousands of dollars sitting in the bank just waiting to pay an IVF doctor. We have a mortgage which we work hard to pay, I am not on a pension, we are just your average Aussie couple.

Why should a woman who has problems falling pregnant but can carry a baby get a Medicare rebate and only be out of pocket a few thousand dollars while I can’t carry a baby because it puts extreme risk on my health, surrogacy is legal, and yet I get no rebate. Without a rebate from Medicare IVF costs can be upwards of $15 000, and this is just IVF, this doesn’t include other costs involved with surrogacy. Medicare needs to change its views on funding towards surrogacy as it is discrimination plain and simple and it must be stopped!

7 thoughts on “Laurie’s Story

  1. I know this young lady and I know her family she deserves without a doubt to become a mum and for this reason alone I support her in her and others ventures to petition medicare to help fund this cause there must be many that are in similar situations. People deserve the ability to have a family without hugh expense so many have children out of wedlock and get paid baby bonuses give these people a chance to be parents

  2. Laurie, My daughter will be in your position in a few years as she has a complex heartcondition and has been advised not to carry a baby………My heart broke for her and will over an over……Just as it for you and your husband. Its not right that some get it and some don’t based just on some out doubted Medicare law……I wish you and your Husband all the best of luck in finding your surrogate, and having your baby.

  3. Medicare should cover surrogacy. Everyone should have access, not just those that can afford it, or break the bank trying. Make it attainable for all and don’t discriminate!

    I have met a surrogate baby, a pure miracle xxxx

  4. We spent over $35,000 on IVF on 3 icsi cycles plus thaw cycles. Even with Medicare we were out of pocket a small fortune and now have no savings. I would never have been able to afford to do the 3 cycles without the Medicare rebate & it upsets me that this isn’t available to everyone. IVF is stressful enough without having to worry about the money. I know of a couple who did surrogacy to have their beautiful baby, it saddened me greatly of their plight to have a much wanted baby & it saddens me more now to know that they did not receive a rebate & it cost them so much more.

  5. Being an egg donor myself i have seen the ups and downs of IVF treatment it’s takes its toll not just financially but physically and emotionally on all involved. Lets make it easier for those that really need it, lets change a very outdated process and allow the rebates to help out whilst we’re at it lets also look at the surrogacy laws!

  6. My daughter and son-in-law have just had their adored baby boy via surrogacy, and while it was very expensive (for us) to see the joy and love radiate from their faces every single time they look at him, makes any sacrifice we made so worthwhile. Everyone should have the opportunity to be parents. If you are prepared to go down the surrogacy path, you have already proven you will be the best parents in the world. It is very emotionally, physically and financially draining, but the rewards are immeasurable!

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